According to John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman’s book, The Man’s Guide to Women, women have two major complaints about their partners. The first complaint is, “He is never there for me” and the second one is, “There isn’t enough intimacy and connection.”
If your hectic work life is making you physically and emotionally unavailable to your girl and this, in turn, is freaking her out, then it is time for you to find a balance between your work and love life. The balance will allow you to spend some quality time with her and strengthen your relationship.
Here are a few tips on spending quality time with your girl:
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1. Recreate the First Date
All those jitters, butterflies in the stomach and even the awkward kiss made your first date special. Recreate the magic by taking her to the same place. If you had gone for dinner, book a table at the same restaurant and dress as impressively as you did back then. If you both had spent your evening gazing at the stars, do it all over again. You never know, you may reignite the chemistry between the conversations.
If your first date was not all that great, ask your partner about her idea of a dream date and plan accordingly. If she is more of a stay-at-home kind of a person, organize a fancy night-in for her. Put on your best clothes, order the best food and wine, play some good music, and make a romantic night out of it.
2. Make Her Feel Special by Giving Her Your Time
A woman feels loved if you make time for her from your busy schedule. Plan something special for her like buy two tickets to a concert she’s been looking forward to, book a couples’ spa session or cook her favorite meal. The aim is to make her feel valued and bring a smile on her face. If you have a hidden talent like playing the guitar, baking or writing poetry, use it to gift her some unforgettable moments.
3. Try New Things Together
When you’ve known each other long enough, you may feel there’s nothing new to discover about your partner after a while. To keep the spark of the relationship alive, try doing new things together. Studies show that couples who spend time doing exciting activities together are happier. Find a hobby that interests both of you, like going for a hike or learning a new language, and spend your weekends indulging in it together.
4. Do an Everyday Activity ‘Together’
If your busy life doesn’t allow you to spend enough time with her, find ways to do activities with your partner that you otherwise do alone. This can means things like working out, cooking or reading a book. Doing routine activities together will strengthen your bond and feel much more fun.
Reserve Saturday nights for movies. Watch romantic classics with her or just Netflix and chill. Stay away from your phone during this time. All other work and life obligations can wait.
5. Plan a Getaway
Travel together, even if it is to the nearest town. For a lot of couples, it is a relationship goal to travel the world together. You can, however, start with smaller steps and pack your bags for a weekend getaway to the nearest hill town resort or the beach. Digitally detox during this time and focus only on your girl and nature. Traveling together will allow you to make some wonderful memories together and also give you a chance to appreciate each other.
6. Pamper Her with Timeless Gifts
Women like surprises, especially if the surprise comes inside a jewelry box. A name necklace or a photo charm necklace will be the perfect souvenir of your love. Another great option is a gold necklace with initials of your names. Check out the unique collection of name necklaces and personalized necklaces at GetNameNecklace for wonderful gift ideas.
If you are low on budget, think of other pocket-friendly options like a bunch of her favorite flowers or a box of her favorite candy.
We often take our partners for granted and by doing so, our relationship suffers. This is why it is important to make time for our partners. Whether you see your girlfriend every day or just once a week, make sure to do things that both of you enjoy in the time spent in each other’s company. Quality time can be spent anywhere as long as you both feel good and connect well. The goal is to make her happy during her time with you because the woman in your life deserves all the happiness you can offer.
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